The thesis that the gender is mostly a cultural creation is still evoking a lot of resistance in Poland. For some people the thesis remains negation of gender “naturalness”, thus seems to be more obvious. Meanwhile, the Steven Seidman’s book published by PWN “The Social Construction of Sexuality” is based on a “less obvious” thesis that our sexuality is a social construction. It is the society who decides which way and on which terms and with whom we fulfill our erotic desire creating at the same time “sexual scripts” and forcing us to obey them. Sex is not always a gate to freedom. Tradition which leads from Freud, Foucault to the contemporary queer research is trying to convince us that “natural” sex should be treated with at least the same reserve as the “natural” gender.