How big is the power of human tales? Are ‘small narratives’ a strategy of resistance? Deconstruction of discourse? – how successful? And how does it relate to gender, body and Polish sex?

The starting point of the presentation, and then the discussion, will be the stories put in a book by Marta Konarzewska and Piotr Pacewicz ‘Forbidden loves. Sexuality and other taboos’. Gay, lesbian, transgender, sado-masological, polyamorous and queer – written in defiance of the knowledge-power of the ‘great narrative’.

‘Hetero- city. But in fact – just bi. You know: “I’m so cool, I go to parties, I smoke weed and I know how to fight, if necessary. With just one difference – I like to kiss guys too’.
(‘Forbidden loves’, ‘Lova, lova and such matters’)
‘I call the guys that I like ‘missters’, the singular is “misster”, it designates something noble’.
(“Forbidden loves”, “Dandy”)
– During the celibacy I decided that being a man does not totally suit me.
– A man – gay?
– A man in general.
(“Forbidden loves”, “Her perfection”)
For the parents it is like the dream has finally come true. The guy finally has a woman. But it turns out that it’s not that simple, if the woman likes me in a dress.
(“Forbidden loves”, “The wedding of two women”)
When I met Natasza I felt at once that this “she or I” is just baloney. Nothing happened. I still love Gośka and I am simultaneously falling in love with someone else.
(a fragment of the interview for the publication on poliamory)
“Trans is in each of us, because stereotypes on gender and sexuality are illusive”
(“Forbidden loves”, “We’re all trans”)

If both – norms and labels sustain the illusion, maybe it is a strategy of “small narratives” the chance of a great resistance?